It has been months since the #MeToo movement reached a peak flooding all of our social media and news feeds. I kept telling myself when the time was right I would write about my feelings on this but week after week I couldn't seem to put my feelings into words.
What is the #me too movement? It was created in 2006 by Tarana Burke in order to spread awareness and understanding about sexual assault in underprivileged communities of colour and recently was shared by a celebrity Alyssa Milano on twitter.
On October 15, 2017 I came across the circulating facebook status:
I type #metoo as a rape victim but I also type it as a women who has experienced a spectrum of sexual harassment in and out of the work place. It is hard to not let my rape overshadow all the rest and down play the significance of harassment. The negativity I had mentioned before about the news stories often sited that the victims should have known what they were getting into, why didn't they just say no, or the statement that sexual harassment accusations were nothing compared to the accusations of rape and by publicizing things such as unwanted kisses, groping, sexual harassment speech etc that the goal to end rape was going to be overshadowed and lost. I had a conversation with a friend recently about this exact subject, I asked her, where are we supposed to draw the line, because right now it seems that it will take allot of work and time to stop monsters from raping and molesting; sometimes so much that it feels impossible, do we ignore the sexual misconduct and harassment until it becomes severe enough? Or do we address the problem as a whole. Normalizing sexual harassment in turn perpetuates rape culture yes rape culture, If unwanted sexual remarks, touching, kissing, groping is excusable where is the line? I have been "lucky" that my experience is the acceptable case of rape in societies eyes, besides the fact that I was too afraid to report. No one can blame me for being intoxicated, for knowing my accuser, for dressing to revealing etc because none of that was the case. But why when it isn't like the rape scenes in the movies does society find a way to explain it away?